I am certainly up for writing that post, too. But let’s not pretend our actions always attract like for like — people are people, in the end, and they don’t all act well, even if we do. So I don’t think it’s entirely true that it’s just about “not being toxic”. Toxic people will exist, no matter how ‘good’ you are. This article represents that side of the coin. But I will get onto the other side too, because it is a valid addition to the discussion. Thanks for your comment.